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• Amber

  I’m going to give my husband more hugs & love notes. I’m going to take back my time & spend at least 30 minutes doing something I enjoy-like going for a walk!
• Elizabeth

  I always think to myself, “when I’m thin, I’ll have such cute clothes and a great sense of style and wear pretty things every day!” I’m going to stop waiting on the weight and wear pretty things and cultivate my style now! I’m so excited!!?

  I have an amazing boyfriend. He is so much of what I could ask for, and I feel so lucky! But- as amazing as he is, romantic gestures are not his strong suit. But that’s ok because this week I’m going to create the romantic dinner on the balcony with candles and wine that I’ve always wanted. I don’t have to wait for him to create the romance, the most important part is that he’s there to share it with me!

  I love my body most doing two things: first, when she feels strong and I can feel the muscles working, second when she looks pretty and I take the time to do her up. This week I’m going to take extra time before work to put on a little makeup. I’m also going to start going to barre fusion classes again on Monday, Wednesday and Friday!
• Jamie

  I have forgotten what I like to do for fun, besides reading. I will look to see what might be fun to me. baby steps. I already know that I am letting the stress in my life take control of my body, I am beginning to see that I have the power to take my body back.
• Mo

  Going dancing tonight! I need to have more fun and I like the idea of doing something fun every day. Rather than saving it up until..I lose weight, find my soulmate, retire, etc. etc…
• Tiffany

  In my relationship I will cuddle more with my husband instead of just wishing he was the one starting it. To start a better relationship with my body I am going to do fun activities like dancing and using my organic body lotions and oils that just sit there more.
• Ashlee

  Well, I’m really afraid to go out in a swimsuit while pregnant. But I’m going to stop being afraid and just get out there and have fun. My body is doing something really great and I need to stop being ashamed of my weight gain. I’m also going to start initiating more romance with my husband. Being pregnant, I’m tired and don’t always feel up to romance, but it’s important and I want my husband to feel loved and taken care of (and I don’t mean just sex. I mean nice gestures as well!) I’m going to start treating my body better by moisturizing more and taking time to go for walks. Thanks, Sarah!
• Kelly

  I will stop being so bossy & demanding to my husband. Trying to get into that feminine groove more. I need to make the time to do more of the self care things I’m always meaning to do – dry brushing, daily moisturising with a lovely lotion, massages, have my hair done…?
• Cathy

  I have been so discouraged about my current weight. I can’t stop beating myself up. I’m hoping these videos are what I need. Thank you!
• Karen

  my actions step today will be #1 to buy a new swimsuit and stop waiting to be the smaller size #2 no negative talk to my husband today and 3#spend more time rubbing lotion on my body. What a great session this was. Here I go:):) Thank you
• Kate

  Definitely want to start dance classes again after watching this! There is a guy I’ve liked for several months and I’ve been waiting on the wait to ask him out. Looks like I’ll be doing it as soon as I see him after my vacation. Love your top in this video too!
• Celia Oliveira

  I don’t live with my boyfriend. I have a daughter in university and currently home for the summer. She’s drives me crazy or being so lazy. I have tried to lay back and wait to have her take initiative in doing something in the evening. We ended up without dinner. And yes, I couldn’t leave dishes in the sink but left a pan (that she initially used) on the stove. It remained there for 4 days until I finally mentioned it. yes I am bossy but just because I like to live in a place that isn’t a pig sty.
  As for my body… I see it fat but that doesn’t mean I don’t care for it. I moisturize. I am the only person I know that takes regularly relaxing baths… so again, my problem is not any of these quite obvious topics.
  Ideas?
• Celia

  Very interesting, your perspectives. But up to point 2, that I have watched int his video, I do it all right. I think I eat because I LIKE eating. I don’t binge eat ice cream, I am NOT an ice cream person. I eat without distractions, I cook diversity, I am a sociable person, have a nice job, am in a relationship…. long story short: I eat because I LOVE food. Still would love to be thinner.
  One more thing…. I am very much hooked on scale numbers. Those numbers in the morning – every morning – make a difference for me.
  So…. what now? I will continue watching your videos. I loved the little challenges and will do them (did the red lipstick already), but I am till a bit lost as far as “have a wrong mindset” is concerned.
  🙂
• Jena

  I am going to start taking better care of my body. Using lotion, getting pedis, taking a break for fresh air and just breathe.

  As far as my relationship, I am going to try to stop nagging and try to make time for date nights. We are so busy with the kids, we never take time out for ourselves.
• Jax

  Wow! So powerful!
  1) I always avoid having my pic taken which will stop right now! Even if I don’t look my best, it will show me where I was at that time. I also have been refusing to buy clothes until I lose weight. So I’m stuck wearing sweat pants cuz they fit. Going today to pick up a few cute outfits, a pair of shorts and a swimsuit. Next time my daughter and I are invited to swim somewhere I won’t refuse because I’m embarrassed of my body!
  2) my husband works in another state at the moment. I’m going to make it a point to talk to him daily and write him hand written letters every week.
  3) love the idea of taking care of my body! Lotion, washing face at night, exercising for fun! Pedicure just to show my love for my body. Yes!
• Lauren

  1) I’m going to start wearing clothes that I put off wearing (prettier stuff instead of gym clothes and stretchy pants) to stop waiting on the weight. I look at my dresses and think I’ll wear them when I lose weight, but I’ll wear them now!
  2) I want to clean up my side of the street by planning dates for my boyfriend and I. I want to surprise him with fun ideas. I found an idea called Alphabet Dating and it looks fun! A could be apple picking, art gallery, etc.. and then you do all the letters for 26 fun dates!
  3) One way I want to rebuild the relationship with my body is thinking more intentionally about what I am feeding it. I’d like to focus more on whole foods, organic possibly instead of quick and easy processed foods. Money is an issue with this but I’m hoping to find cheap ways to find healthier foods.
• jen monago

  I will finally stop waiting for my father’s approval. I believe that is the root of most of my self-esteem issues.

  This was our exchange yesterday:
  Me: You know the last time I swam laps? Like 15 years ago! And you know what a guy said to me at the pool? That my stroke was textbook!
  Dad: And you taught you?! That’s right kiddo! (um, yeah but…)
  Me: I mean, after all these years I guess I still got it!
  Dad: You know who would have been a great, and I mean GREAT swimmer? Your brother Cris. He would have been incredible. But he was already into basketball…. (Cris is my youngest brother and golden child)
  Me: Uh huh.

  And topic dropped. I am so tired of this being our conversation. Me wanting to hear some type of approval and my father completely not able to do so.

  So, I am going TO SWIM ANYWAY. Stop waiting for me to have the perfect body in a swimsuit. Stop waiting for my dad to approve. Just swim.

  As for my relationships, I read an article about sex and health and gave it to my husband. It talked about how women need more than just, let’s have sex. My husband still hasn’t figured why I’m not in the mood every single second of the day. So, I thought about my side of the street and choose to casually educate. We are going away next weekend for my birthday, so I’ll be much more focused on us too.
• Jennifer

  It’s amazing! I should have left a message yesturday but I jumped to action imidetley. I hit my schedule carved out an hour a day for self care. Things like my nails, or exerimenting with makeup. With my relationship… I put forward a positive attitude (for the past year I have been sooooo mopey and depressed)I never noticed exactly how much my demeanor really affect my husband. I set a date night for Sunday!
• Lynda

  I recognize areas that need to be addressed today. !. I will be more assertive and more of a partner rather than just tagging along in my relationship. 2. I will restart my exercise program which helps me to feel stronger and sexier! I will give myself permission to take time for caring for my body that I have abused for years. The first step will be to wash my face each night, moisturize my skin, and wear lingerie to bed instead of sweats. My husband tells me he loves my body, now I need to start to love my body too, Thank you
• Rebecca

  Relationship….Instead of relying on my husband to find a babysitter, make the plans, arrange everything for a ‘Date” because that version is stuck in my head, I am going to arrange an evening for us with another couple.
  Myself: Moisturize every day, admit that I am almost loving my body instead of listening to the voice that “this should be flatter, this should be rounder, smoother, clearer>” That voice doesn’t fit the new energy that is starting to flow in my life!!
  THANK YOU!!
• Carolina

  Very profound words, thank you Sarah. I will stop waiting on the weight to take pictures with my family. My kids are going to grow up and have no pictures with me in them!
  For my relationship I will be more affectionate towards my husband and not be so critical. I love him and am grateful for our good marriage and strong relationship so I do need to dedicate time and kindness to it.
  For my body, I will pamper my skin and face like I used to and move my body in joy not punishment. I will feed my body better, nutritious food and delicious healthy food.
• Kharizma

  For the relationship side I’m going to continue working on the thing my husband I talked about 2 weeks ago. When we work on a project, I get very bossy and want him to anticipate my next steps and move quickly. We have very different ways of wrapping our heads around how to get things done and he has Parkinson’s….so how can he anticipate what I’m doing when he would do it differently and it’s not fair for me to expect him to move faster. Because I end up losing my temper more often than not….we talked about working on things in the same area as one another,but not working together directly. This way if we need a quick hand to help we are right there. We can still talk and laugh and brainstorm without getting wrapped up in the details. I know of other long time married couples who do this so I want to try. Today he is going to build a tool shed and I’m going to plant out a section in the garden nearby.
  I take pretty good care of my body but I’m still ashamed to show it off. So today I’m going to cut off some old jeans into shorts. I have a beautiful new tattoo on my upper thigh that no one sees because I hate wearing shorts. I have hated shorts since I was a teenager. Even at 110 pounds my thighs were big,and spread when I sat down and at 15 an uncle commented on how I have my moms side of the family thighs(meaning huge) and my aunt said yes she does and she will get their hips too. Sure enough, my hips did get wider and my thighs even bigger. And as I got bigger I became more self conscious believing everyone was looking at my fat thighs. Even my grandma (on my moms side) would comment on her “big ol’ fat thighs”. I now see with a clear mind that she was actually a pretty small lady on top and had thin legs but because everyone always focused on her hips and thighs I didn’t see her whole body as it was. I can see this in myself now. My waist is a 32″ and my bra size is a 34″ but my hips are 46″ plus a small roll of fat sitting inbetween. Yesterday I noticed a non white woman with a very similar body as mine. She rocked it. Tight torn jeans, tight T-shirt, cute belt, sexy hairstyle, red lips (seriously) and fun jewelry. I don’t know her and only saw her in passing but she inspires me. I may be a white girl, but there is no reason I can’t own my body. I feel like different cultures can own their bodies in different way according to society, well I’m done with it. I’m not waiting on the weight anymore. I’m wearing shorts.
• claire

  Hi & thank you x

  1. Relationship – Been in an off/on relationship for 2.5 years with some one younger , he’s very good looking and been treated very badly. Why did I stay? I was mostly ‘used’, he never wanted me out with him. It’s hurt me badly and I’ve always thought that im not good enough. I think hes gone on a party holiday this weeks and is lying saying hes got driving lessons all week. Its the last straw – I’ve started dating. I must not respond to any texts and be strong now.
  2. Id like to look after my body, and me. I’d love to quit smoking, mousturise, excercise, feed my body good food, and do things I enjou doing. Ive been depressed alone now for 5/6 months apart from when my family visit at weekends… I cant carry on like this.
• Kelly

  How to clean my side of the street. I just got out of a relationship and thanks to this video I see how I wasn’t showing up to it. I’m very guarded and it’s hard for me to give myself fully to someone else. I’m always afraid I’m going to lose myself. I think that my action step here is going to be to set up an appointment with a therapist. I have so much to work on myself to get rid of my trust issues and insecurities.
  For my body, I’m going to feed it better. I know first hand how good my body feels when I feed it the right stuff, and how much sugar and processed stuff affect me in a negative way. I will stop looking for convenience and take the time to prepare nourishing meals for me and my son.
• saffron mawby

  instead of squeezing into small clothes and feeling sad, frustrated and frumpy I’m going to find things that fit and suit me and enjoy looking good. I will start caring for my body. i will show my partner what i love about him as often as i can
• Tonia Brown

  1.my relationship is quite strong but it didn’t come easy, it’s taken a lot of communication and understanding what each other’s needs were
  2. I spend a lot of time on my feet and they suffer for it… So I will to rebuild my relationship with my body from the feet up.
• Marta

  Love insights about fun and food!! Thank u!

  I am ready to release fears and shine even brighter. I’ve dimmed my light due to a lot of jealousy and I say- buy some shades bc I’m ready to blind y’all with my joy and talent.

  I embrace joy today by doing my singing exercises, recording a song and teaching my kids the vocal techniques I love! They will love it. And for fun I’ll sing the song at a karaoke bar to my husband on our date night- he will be shocked and it will add positive energy to our connection.

  Excited to fill up w real nourishment instead of mindless eating to numb uncomfortable feelings!
• Jill

  I think this video struck home with me because last week I ended up having this huge argument with my boyfriend of the last 7 years over help with the dishes. It annoys me incredibly that I do all the cooking and expects me to do the clean up too, so I asked him to help dry the plates. He then did start. But not how I would do it, so I started saying ‘that’s still wet’ and ‘don’t stack them there I haven’t wiped there’ and before long there was a shouting match and he walked out. We didnt speak for two days other than to argue and I felt hurt and abandoned. I think maybe in the future it would be a good idea if I ask him to help but then leave the kitchen! We have had similar arguments whilst decorating in the past and perhaps this helps me to see that just because it isn’t done “my way” doesn’t mean it can’t get done. I suspect he doesn’t try because I’m critical. I think my plan will be to let go a little, and not to micro manage everything. Funnily enough, when I’d popped flowers from the garden into water for this challenge, he then went out and bought me two bunches of flowers – said he wanted me to know he appreciated me so I’m guessing that by me being nicer to me, he is happier too. I’ve taken time for a soak in the bath today with sugar scrub and face masks like I would do when I was younger. I also already made a start this week by trying an aquarobics class instead of going to the gym. I think I need to find more things I enjoy – buy better / nicer things for myself like body butter and foot scrub and decide to try new things (and not worry about everyone looking at my fat jiggling in exercise gear)!
• Louise

  Cleaning up my side of the street : my husband and I have been together 20yrs so things at times can feel flat , especially when we see very little of each other Monday to Friday ( he works nights) so I’m often moaning at him that he doesnt pay me enough attention and how I’m left to deal with my teenage boys on my own , so I’m going to try and stop venting this so much and appreciate he is out earning money so we can live in our beautiful home , he’s not out partying and his job isn’t easy , he works really hard . I’m going to do more around the house (he does the majority of the chores) so he dosnt feel he needs to do it all and will maybe relax more , enough for us to start “connecting” again !
  As for loving my body : I’m going to take her for a walk every night and give her a candlelight bubble bath at least once a week and start body brushing just 5 mins a night just for her !
• Jo Wilkinson

  Thank You Sarah, I completely connected with all you shared in your 2nd video. I recently split from my partner, this has been our 3rd split over 1.5 years. I feel so much love for him and didn’t want to give up on us and all that we share together. He says he cares for me and loves me but is not in love with me and confessed he thinks about approaching other women he works with. For these reasons I left him and now I am feeling very sad. I have a lot of love and support from family and friends and I Feel it is so important to keep investing in my family and friends as I always do. More than anything now since starting the live more challenge I am investing more time in me. I want to learn latern dancing but always felt I needed a partner to do this with. I am going to sign up and find myself a dance partner. Flowers and a bath once a week. Keep up my yoga and mediation, I love my body but sometimes I am not very kind to it, I will make sure I treat my body kindly and give it what she needs ??
• Lisa Jensen

  The challenge for day 5 is a tough one and it has brought a lot of things to mind. First, how am I going to stop waiting for the weight to come off. This struck a cord with me as I never realized how much weight I had gained because I refuse to keep a scale in my house. So I plan to have more FUN in my life again, I realize now that when I was single I was in great shape because I did what I wanted to do and I made sure I was always enjoying life!! On to the next part, how am I going to show up in my relationship. This one is hard, as pointing the blame on the other person is the easy way out. The hard part is to look at yourself and understand that you are the one not being welcoming and wanting the relationship. So I plan to not nag and be aware of the mood I am in when my other half makes it home. Smile more to him and not think of things he hasn’t done around the house or for me!! I really want to have our relationship back, it was a lot of fun in the beginning. Action to start building a relationship with my body will be to buy a push up bra….I really miss my perky breasts before kids!! Gravity and breastfeeding have gotten the better of them. I stand better and my confidence is boosted when they up where they are suppose to be. So grateful for this challenge, I am learning so many things about myself again!!