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I am not in a relationship and I am not dating so is there another way I can look at this step?
This challenge has been very eye opening. I knew I had been ignoring myself for probably 30 years or more, but did not realize the depth of my ignoring. I am grateful for this and am making changes and already seeing/feeling a difference. I am going to start speaking lovingly and kindly to my body. I am going to start using a scrub in my skin and moisturize at least weekly. I’m going to get monthly mani -pedi and buy myself flowers every month. I’m going to get some stretching/yoga videos on you tube.
I claim this for myself:
To start cleaning up my side of the street for my relationship with my husband of 29 years I will make dinners for us when the kids are at work or out for the night (which turns out to be at least 2 times a week).When it is just us I tend to throw in a frozen dinner or get take out. I don’t put in the effort. Probably doesn’t make him feel very important. That is going to change!
The 1 action step I will take to rebuild a relationship with my body is that I will take a bath ( instead of a shower) once a week and I will use essential oils for the healing benefits and light candles and use skin conditioners for softer skin! Ugh! I can do this!
I’m not in a relationship, but I am in love with a man I have spent most of the last year with, but he doesn’t feel the same, he wants to be friends. . . with benefits, I don’t!! I’ve told him several times I want to stay friends but I need time to get over my feelings for you, that if you don’t have feelings for me and don’t care about me please leave me alone, but while he won’t address that issue, he will stop talking to me for 3 or 4 weeks at a time and after that long I’m starting to not think about him every moment of everyday, then out of the blue he’ll call or text me wanting to talk and get together, then I’m right back to thinking about him, wanting to see him.I made the decision a while back to not contact him, if he wants to talk to me or see me he can get a hold of me, but now I realize I just need to stop all contact , stop responding to his calls and texts. I just wish he had enough respect for me to give me the space I need to stop loving himy as much as I do.
As far as my body image issues, I really want to firm up, lose my tummy, and I have a scar/rash on my right leg that keeps me from wearing shorts or dresses unless I wear tights. I’ve been to the doctor for my leg a few times, but all they want to give me us cortisone cream which hasn’t worked. So I’ve recently started working out to get firmed up, love how it makes me feel! I’m going to moisturize everyday, I deserve to pamper myself, and look into figuring out how to fix my leg or at least make it not look so bad!!!
Just thought I would pass this on. I have used Calendula Ointment on so many things and works wonders on rashes. It is a homeopathic ointment (made from calendula flowers)found in health food stores. I hope this helps you❤️
Thank you I will give it a try!!!
1. I don’t have a current relationship, nor have I been dating recently. I think my action step here is going to be looking into my fear or apprehensiveness about dating.
2. I have already started taking action with building a relationship with my body. I am recovering from an injury and normally I would just “power through it” and keep on doing what I normally do, but I have decided that my body is telling me to slow down and just be. Also, I really enjoy indulging in “pampering”, though don’t do it all that often. Going for a massage or a facial or anything that seems like pampering I really like and I realize afterward how wonderful my body feels and how it uplifts my spirit. Also, simple things like using a scented shower gel or body lotion is something I like to do to build that relationship with and take care of my body.
wow,thank you this was beautiful.
Ok so no more waiting, I’ve really been feeling that urge to take action for the past 6-8 months. And I have taken some action but then after I do one thing, I get lazy a week later. But watching this video and then watching “Americas Got Talent”. I caught myself tearing up with this big plea and fire in my heart. I want to sing. More than anything in the world I want to sing. Growing up I was told that dancers can’t sing and for some reason I’ve allowed myself to listen to that. Well I’m done waiting, I’m going to do what makes my soul leap for joy. I even took action today and wrote a new song and came up with the harmony. I also have started singing lessons but now I will budget those lessons like an actual monthly bill to keep myself accountable. These voice lessons really make me feel alive, so I’m not allowing myself to make anymore excuses.
As for romance, I’ve recently let go of a 2 year relationship. One that I felt was the one, so it was a long couple of months of not wanting to let go. It’s taken me about 8 months to finally feel free. And this is the first time I have allowed myself to say yes to going on a date. So I am challenging myself to show up and be present and my absolute self for this upcoming date. Wish me luck 🙂
And for my body, I will start by stretching, putting lotion on (I honestly never do) and telling my body that each inch is beautiful. I will start tonight but I would like to make it a daily morning practice. Stretching really takes no more that two minutes and I believe that telling my body how beautiful it is, will get me on a great mindset for the day.
Thanks again Sarah!
This was very powerful. Thank you. I have loved and cared for my body for many years, until 2.5 ago. When I was giving birth to my youngest, I was unable to have a natural birth. After 21 hours of labor I had an ER cesarean birth, in which I lost almost 3 times the expected amount of blood. Then fell in my room at the hospital and tore my MCL, ACL, acetabular labrum and sprained my pelvis and back. I have felt so much like a failure and absolutely hated my body for that birthing experience. Then within two weeks of my son’s birth, my husband became very abusive with me. For months I thought if I looked better and hadn’t been injured, he would have valued me more.
I have been carrying a heavy load of self contempt.
1. I’ve been waiting to dance for when I loose weight. I will start dancing in the house with my son. He will love it! And I’m sure I will too.
2. I’m using my voice now to stand up to my husband, and I need to add to it some love as well. Even if we decide to divorce, he’s my youngest child’s father and we have shared several years together. We can move forward with kindness.
3. I’m going to write a letter to my body thanking it for making my healthy baby, thanking it for nursing him (still at 31 months!), and appreciating it’s hard work in healing from my injuries.
I’m going to continue my fitness routine, add in dry skin brushing and drinking the appropriate amount of water daily. Those will be great acts of TLC for this body. <3
ok so relationship with my body… I had a sudden realisation while I was watching the video. My body has never been respected – it was used without consent from a young age. I was nick named “fat” and “chickaboo”. I was told that I was too big, too tall, feet were too big, double chin, teeth were bad…
It totally framed my self perception.
It’s time to rethink what is fun for me. Who I am, how I can be nicer to me.
Thanks for giving me something to ponder
I have been on this journey for over a year now and have given up dieting. I feel that recently I have taken a bit of a step back and have been giving in to the negative thoughts. I have not been partaking in my life or doing the things that I want to. So today I went out with my husband to this really awesome second hand store called Junk and disorderly! It was really fun and we had a great time looking around. We also booked the hotel and rental car for our holiday in Queenstown today (we got a great deal on flights this week). These little things really make me happy! Tomorrow I am going to buy the lamps I have been wanting for ages and go and see my family who I have been missing.
I am going to be affectionate towards my husband but giving more cuddles and really listen to him.
I am going to moisturing my body everyday and also going to give myself a facial tonight.Take more time with my hair and makeup everyday.
1. Instead of simply thinking good things about my husband, I’m going to tell him.
2. I’m going to moisturize my skin everyday and remember to wash my face at night.
I can relate so much to this video. For me I have a really hard time with affection. So much of me I give out on a day to day basis. People cord themselves to me really easily. So at the end of the day to give attention to my man is really hard. So I’m going to try to de-cord myself at the end of the day with Epsom salts and lavender and a nice shower. I hope that this will help me to be more able to give my family what they need.
For myself I am going to honor my self my going to Pilates because I love it and even finally go to a yoga class that I have been dying to do as well to help heal my soul.
My husband and I are approaching 10 years of marriage. The last year has been the hardest. We both feel very overworked, misunderstood and neglected. There is a lot of blaming and not a lot of listening on both our parts. I have built a business and came up with a plan to quit my corporate job this year and he is so against it. Mainly because he is afraid of change and the instability being self employed and he is angry I didn’t ask his suggestions and kind of told him
what I was doing. He felt the decision wasn’t mutual and to be honest I think he is a little jealous because he has not found something he loves. I am going to work on being more understanding. Devote more attention to really listening.
2. As for my body, I have let myself completely go in all aspects. I have an entire bag of products and glam bags unopened from the last year. I barely find time to shower much less use any of it. Today I am going to sort through all that makeup and have a little fun figuring out what makes me feel beautiful.
These are two very difficult topics for me…
I am not in a healthy romantic relationship. I am married, but separated for the last 5 years and I have finally realized that I need to take the steps to end my marriage formally and heal so that I can look forward to the possibility of romantic love in the future. I have reflected on my part of this relationship-taken responsibility and tried to make important changes, but my healthiest option now is to move on.
In terms of my relationship with my body-it has been mostly been a disgust for many years. I need to thank her for allowing me to carry and give birth to 2 beautiful children and take care of her now, instead of wishing and hoping to change her. I owe it to her to feed and move her, so those are my steps. Find healthy ways to nourish her, and start moving much more.
This one is tough. I’ve been single most of my life. But the last date I went on (which was longer ago than I care to admit) was with an on again, more often off-again guy who knows me pretty well. He sat across from the table and said “imagine how incredible it would be if you believed you were even half as amazing as I KNOW you to be.” All I could do was sit in this crowded bar in silence, with tears running down my face. So for the day 5 challenge, I’m going to find a way to see myself the way he sees me; smart, witty, and sexy. As for loving my body, it has always been very flexible, but I don’t move it enough anymore. I’m going to stretch more and look up those YouTube yoga videos some of these wonderful Live More sisters have recommended. I also just ordered a new, beautiful 2-piece swimsuit in my current size, so my body can reflect how great she feels when I treat her with a refreshing dip in the pool.
1. I am going to speak more kindly to my husband and be more affectionate.
2. I am going to make an appointment for a massage. I’ve been wanting one for years and just can’t get myself to do it.
I will make sure I am meeting my boyfriends needs and making him feel appreciated.
I wont feel guilty if he is cleaning up while I’m taking some me time.
I will start giving myself some more me time and stop thinking I am being selfish.
Thanks 🙂
It’s funny…I just bought a sleeveless shirt yesterday for the first time in years. I wore it out to dinner with my dad. I never feel comfortable in sleeveless tops because of my arms, but I figured what the heck! I put on some sparkly moisturizer and enjoyed the sleeve freedom!
As for my love life (or lack there of)…I put myself on an online dating website and even purchased 3 months. I’m still weary of this process and actually was disheartened by the “pics” I was getting. I guess big girls should just be lucky to get any type of attention (uh, HELL no)…I’ve updated some pics and decided to give it another go. I’m trying to balance my work and life. It’s easier since I’m out of my classroom for a while. I’m going to try to be more observant while I’m out as well…if it happens, that’s great…if not, I’ll be okay 🙂
I am starting by writing my beautiful body a love letter! Explaining to myself how fabulous each and every part of me and how grateful I am to be in it and so appreciate how she functions so amazingly well. I am going to relax and enjoy app meditation and soak in what I have heard and put it in to practice as grow in love and light! Thank U sooooooo much for this opportunity!
1. Living more by enjoying things I like, having some time to myself.
2. Listen to my partner and acknowledge what he likes
3. Wear more earrings/make up, do my nails and hair more often, get out of my gym clothes after going to the gym
I don’t think I dislike my body – I’m more indifferent to it. It’s the one I was given so I have to learn to live with it. That’s still a far cry from loving and caring for it. Thanks for helping me realize this.
To clean up my side of the street I am going to make sure I smile and give hugs and kisses to my husband and children when then get home, and I am going to change my clothes and leave the work day behind.
To start building a relationship with my body, I’m going to put on a little makeup every day. I usually go without because I’m too busy to bother, and then I look at myself in the mirror at work while washing my hands and tell myself I look awful. Bi realized on red lipstick day how much better I feel if I just feel more polished.
1) I’m going to agree to go on a date with a very nice guy who asked. Why wait?
2) Relationship: before my date I will give myself a pep talk to really be in the moment and listen to him and have fun.
3) My body: pedicure and mousturize today!
1. Waiting on the weight: I thankfully started working on this a few months ago. I’ve recently bought two pairs of shorts. I recently started ballet class too, which I love. Yesterday I wore one of my favourite dresses and I didn’t bother to wear a vest underneath it as I usually do in an attempt to smooth over my tummy so it won’t bulge. I will continue to look for little ways to push myself to love and accept this body now, as it is.
2. Clean up my side of the street: this has been a struggle lately. We celebrated our 10 year anniversary a month ago and it was wonderful cause for the first time ever, we went away for a weekend without our children. I relished the attention my husband paid me. Just me. He’s a wonderful dad and man but I often feel neglected which makes me angry and bitter which I have been for the last 3 weeks. Today I am going to attempt to not shout at, correct or give my husband the side-eye. I am going to attempt kindness.
3. Me & my body: like #1, this I have been working on for some time now so I will continue. Yesterday after watching video #1, I have a massive a-ah moment. I had tried in the past to sit and eat at the dining table with no distraction. But watching the video helped me take the focus away from the reason for doing it is that it can help me lose weight to it being me-time. To it being a wonderful opportunity to feed and nurish my body and show it love. For the first time ever,I was at ease sitting an enjoying my food with no distractions (my phone!!!). So I will continue this, all day in lipstick after I give myself a facial ❤️
1-I will go shopping for make up. I stopped wearing it a long time ago. I want to look like I care about myself now, and maybe I will start to actually care for myself.
2-I will take a couple of nights a week and not turn the tv on, instead grabbing a glass of wine and inviting my husband to sit with me outside instead of staring blankly at a screen from separate seats every night.
3-I will schedule a massage! The only one I’ve ever had was a gift and that was years ago!
First I am going to stop counting the calories. I need to focus on having fun! For my relationship, I am going to be less critical of my fiance and be more loving towards him. And to love my body I am going to continue my daily walks, continue with my daily facial cleanser, put lotion on my skin every night, and let myself get dressed up more often and in more fun outfits for going out rather than just a t-shirt and jeans. More shorts and skirts and pretty tops!!
I am so blessed to be married to my soul mate. He balances me and is my happiness. But that is so much to ask from someone, no matter how much they love you and you love them! I am going to start working to find happiness within myself and my accomplishments. I believe that one of the best ways I can find happiness within myself is to leave stress from work at the office. I am going to start taking time for myself everyday. Which leads to my relationship with my body…
The analogy of my body being a person that I constantly criticize was certainly eye opening. I am mean and hateful to my body. I want so badly to be comfortable in my own skin. I want to feel beautiful and confident. I am going to start treating my body like she is a goddess. I have always prided myself in how “low maintenance” I am, but I realize now that it is actually just avoiding the relationship with my body. Why wouldnI want to dress-up when I feel so gross? I’m going to flip that analogy on itself! If I dress up, I will stop feeling gross!
1. I’m going to plan dates more around things I think my husband would enjoy then what I know I would enjoy. And find more little ways daily to show him how special he is to me.
2. I’d love to get monthly massages, but it isn’t in the budget right now. So doing more fun activities to get my body moving that don’t cost money like bike rides, walks, dancing at home and yoga at home. I will also look into more physical therapy for my hip injury so I can enjoy these activities without pain or further injury. And of course more yummy smelling lotion. Might be time for a hair cut too and to get up earlier to spend more time on my appearance so I don’t look so thrown together.
1. I will wear what I want and be more bold. I will wear clothes that make me feel good (even if they’re shorts-shudder). I won’t apologize for me.
2. I will try to be more loving and stop focusing so much on the negative. I will plan a date and help out more when he doesn’t without anger.
3. I will show my body I love it by looking for a hip hop class to try-I has always been a dream of mine but I have been “waiting on the weight”. I will also do things that I enjoy and are healthy…like eat fruit salad and walk/bike/swim.
Hi! Great video. It really spoke to me on a deep level. I plan to stop focusing so much on what my husband doesn’t do and feeling like I need to boss him around. To build a better relationship with my body I plan to get back to my face cleansing routine, painting my nails, and eating in way that has me asking my body what it wants. Not what my mind is telling me I’m supposed to want. Thanks again! This journey has been great so far 🙂
Hello Beauties
1. Waiting on the weight: I stopped dressing for me. I dress for conveniece. Why can’t I wear the sundress that doesn’t have sleeves AND my red lipstick? I want to look cute when I walk out the door, walk around my house, and everywhere in between.
2. Cleaning up my side of the street: God blessed me with an AMAZING man. I waited a long time for him and made tons of mistakes on the way. However, i found him. I’m so scared that I’m not ________ enough. How do I repair that when he is deployed in the middle of an ocean? I’ve googled LDR activities, but that’s more for me than for our relationship. Do I ask him? (shudder) what if the answer scares me?
3. Me and My Body: ~breathe~ This my friends sucks hard core! Who wants to outright admit they hate their body? Well…here is it. I hate what I see. I don’t see what others see when they look at me, I wish I did. How can I improve that relationship………….maybe it goes back to #1. I’m going to get dressed for me. Not for a job, gym, excursion, or anything else. What is it that makes me feel good to be me. Also, I think I shall set forth a pampering regime for myself. I can’t remember the last haircut or pedicure without feeling guilty.