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• Ann

  My marriage needs serious attention. I have one child and am nearing 40 and would like another one but my husband says no and it is a serious rift between us. I do not feel like being intimate with him basically ever. I once did. I am going to start reading tonight a book that both of us have agreed to read- the 5 Love Languages- a friend with a seemingly very healthy marriage recommended it. It is hard for me to devote time to our marriage when I feel so resentful, but I am committed to making it better. As far as being good to my body I am going to buy some nice underwear/sleepwear- my current supply is decidedly unsexy.
• Lora

  I’m single and have been for awhile. After my last relationship, I was just over it. Plus, I am very comfortable being by myself. More of the time than not, I’ve thought I’ll spend the rest of my life single. And, I’m not sure I’d mind that. But, there is a part of me that wants to make sure I’m not feeling that way because I’m protecting myself. So, I took action and put up a dating profile. Not really sure how else to meet men. The only men that have asked me out in the past year have all been married. Not cool. Anyway, I immediately started getting messages but they feel so inappropriate and desperate. I’m having an anxiety attack. I am going to leave the profile up for 3 months and after that make my decision on how to proceed.

  As far as my body… I have been working on this for awhile. It is so not close to what perceived perfection is in the US. But, so what. I see people everyday that don’t have bodies that can function 100% and yet they still appreciate what they have. I’m 50, healthy and grateful for my body. So, I will continue to run, swim and let it take me places. Just not sure it is going to take me on a date. 😉
• Rosa

  Oh wow! I did some rose pedals picking today at a client’s home I will be making rose water.I used to love gardening. but since my back surgery I stopped.i became very depressed and alone .one step at a time for me. it depends on pain levels which today was really bad.but still connected withother nature.
• Leslie Locketz

  My husband is 19 years older than I am. Yesterday he turned 87! Ten years ago he had a stroke and hasn’t spoken since. He likes to watch more and more TV and go out less and less. I respect that and don’t let it stop me from my own adventures. I have lots of friends. I still try to think of things he likes to do, and he often surprises himself by liking a movie or a restaurant I have chosen. Sometimes I get impatient and don’t like the way that feels. I can read to him, make him special meals, and take him to buy new clothes. For my body, I will throw out clothes that aren’t flattering for the size I am now. Clothing that is a special favorite I will have altered or re-purposed. I already dance, hike, work in my garden, but I have a leg injury and have had to cut back. I will respect my body and let it heal rather than overdo it and set myself back even further..
• Lisa

  1. I’m going to start dancing more, even if it is just around the house for now 🙂
  2. I’m not in a relationship or dating but im okay with that right now. I’d rather take my time than settle with someone who isnt right for me
  3. Im going to really start pampering myself more and moisterize and what not 🙂
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• Katrina rice

  Well as far as my take action I am going to take part in a run for humanity tomorrow which is something I don’t do (running). And even though I injured my foot and can’t run in it I do plan to support my team mates. Which will lead get me out of the house and into the public which I don’t do cuz I have high axioty. My goal as far as relationships go is to only build it with myselfriends. I plan on spending the year only doing things to build my love for myself again and no longer date unless I meat them in the real world living life to the fullest. I have always wanted to travel and am hoping you make 3 good trips this year providing I can get my anxiety under control and stop all abusive behavior towards myself to make myself the young bright light I once was before I was brain washed into believing I was never worth it. So I spend my days telling myself I am and that I am a great heart that deserves all good in return no more bad. And will nourish my bodand my mind with the tools to combat the dark thoughts that stop me from loving and living like I know I can.
• Mary D'Anna

  not going to be so critical of my husband,going to spend more time on make up and hair,decorations for my body.
• Christine

  1. I want to make it a priority to be intimate with my husband at least once a week. And it doesn’t always have to be sex.
  2. It may seem like a little thing, but just taking a moment to put on hand cream at night before bed. My hands look old and worn. I can at least take better care of these amazing things that help me all day.
• Marisol

  Last April I started to taking care of myself. I used a gift card that
  my sister gave me almost one year back for two hours with an Image Consultant. she helped me to get rid of all the clothes that didn’t fit or make me look older Needless to say that the closet is almost empty. I promised her that when I lost weight I will call her again to go shopping…she is still waiting! I have gained pounds instead of loosing it. So I feel very frustated.I need to stop weighting myself everyday because when I see the scale numbers going up, I always started to talk very negative to myself. I don’t like to see myself in the mirror and when I put the oil in my skin I do it very fast., I will spend more time taking care of myself and I will be more CONSISTENT! I have a great husband that is always telling me that I am beautiful…I will believe him! I always said that I don’t like to exercise but I think that I just need to have more fun, that is why I started to go to the beach…and I love it! Again, I need to be more consistent. I know life is great and beautiful and I am blessed with a great family and friends that love me! I am going to love myself more!
• Christina

  I am going to start being more intent in my kind words and thoughts with my husband-show him more love and kindness. I think I will be doing the same for myself and my body. Get up and take time to get myself ready and not rush through morning rituals just to be done. Become more mindful of what my body needs.
• Andrea

  1. About 8 to 10 yrs ago I was a size 0 doing it the unhealthy way . I had a lot of people that loved me watching me destroy myself while I thought even to this day that I looked great. So how I gained weight but have not weighed myself ever because I can not handle it still, I feel I will always have these feelings inside my head. Now I look at myself with my muffin top and I’m just unhappy with what I look like now. I will only go up to a size 6-8 to wear even if I have to struggle in it. But on the other side I am working to be more healthy and move past this. I will do it …
  2. What to do for fun today well that was just to put my feet up after work and read a good magazine and relax with my husband. But I do go kickboxing three times a week and some days its a struggle to get there but we have such a great group of true people there that its one big happy family …
  3. The eating without distractions is one thing I am going to do ….I work while I eat my breakfast and go thru lunch usually not eating and I need to just sit away and take me time and enjoy what I’m eating and let work wait on the back burner.
  So thank you I will listen to the next video and comment on my progress…
• Lucia

  When I show up at home, I am going to be more outwardly loving with my husband. I am going to be more mindful about what I put into a body that I already love.
• Robyn

  1. I’m going to stop waiting and take a spin class without caring what others think.
  2. I’m going to speak up more and “pick my fights” so to speak. Let go of the little things and appreciate the big things.
  3. I will start doing more just for me. I get regular monthly massages, but I like the idea of making sure my skin is moisturized and getting that connection back.
• Christina

  I am becoming more and more comfortable with my body. I am not sure if it comes with age or just overall comfort level. There are of course things that I would like to make better hence participating in this video and comment series. For fun I like to walk and would love to learn more about yoga.
• Terry

  What would ai do if I loved my body? I might come home and put on something better than my pj pants and a huge t-shirt. That could be my place to start. As for my romantic relationship and cleaning up my side of the street? My first instinct is to throw all my trash on HIS side of the street. But that’s not what you are looking for, is it Sarah?? I will admit….I need to acknowledge him more. Period. That’s all I can do right now.
• Loni

  1. Just being a size 24
  2. Knit
  3. It was a bit boring at first, but then it really turned into a delight.
• Courtney

  I’m going to start acknowledging my partner more often when he’s doing things to help me out. I really want to appreciate him more and not take him for granted.
  I think that I’m in a pretty good relationship with my body, but I want to find a way to thank it for putting up with all that I do to it. I’ll do this by speaking positively to myself and yoga because I really love flowing through the motions! I also would like to start eating in a way that satisfies my body instead of what is “healthy” all the time. I found this video to be super inspiring and can’t wait to begin working on all the ideas in my head right now!
• Niska

  I’m going to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks, and wear what I want, and feel good about it.
  I am going to start planning dates for me and my husband instead of expecting him too and being disappointed that he doesn’t. I am also going to start to initiate more communication between us.
  I’m going to start regular me time activities: gone are the winter legs covered by pants or stockings, bring on pedicures, massages and long walks on the beach.
• Jill

  I forgot about the eating without distractions. I am really good at this at home since I love peace and quiet and we have a great back porch. But, at my job I get 30-40 min at the most for lunch and I often work while eating I hate that! I’ll make a point to do that less.
• Jill

  1. My 48rh year and a demanding job has thrown me for a loop. My body is flabbier and rounder in parts and I am trying to accept the fact that I am can’t do it all. I won’t be in great shape and a size I love forever. I should be ok with that. I need some down time from a hectic schedule and to give myself a break. 2. Fun! I did it. Spent a whole day and half of the next with friends visiting bookstores and the VS sale 🙂 3. What was 3?! I am going to do more yoga. I love it!
• Alissa Rae Hill

  I wanted to check back in about eating with my full attention.
  I am not really that good at this. I often use eating as a mutitasking time– I never realized this. I often just eat because its time to. I am enjoying the challenge and also loving the ability to share this info thru modeling to my 9 year old daughter. She often reads or draws while eating…. its a big change and I am excited
• Alissa Rae Hill

  I am going to make an effort to feel more me, more slow, more sexy before I interact with my man. I am going to leave space for him to be there for me in new ways. I am going to do less of the planning and more of the being.
  I am going to choose out some outfits that feel really good – like actually try them on and have them hanging in the closet ready to wear so that I can just put it on and go. I want to feel more feminine, soft and sexy. I will choose outfits that help me to feel this way. Thank you for asking!
• Sherry

  I will start going to places and not feel discouraged if my curvaceous hips and weight don’t fit in the seating…I am going to just get out and be seen more, even asking someone out!! Decided that moisturizing and water are my body’s friends!! I’m a big time emotional eater and need to stop, so here goes!!
• Jennifer

  I am going to leave my house on weekends and do something. I am also going to start trying yoga, I have always wanted too.
  • Alissa Rae Hill

    looking forward to seeing how this goes for you and what your experience with yoga is…<3
• Lucy

  1. I have never been in a relationship, and I am really struggling with it now, more than ever. I am going to commit to being myself and getting in tune with my feelings instead of thinking what he thinks about me. I need to be more selfish when it comes to crushes and those feelings and try to break it if it leaves me feeling miserable. I will get out of my head and be the confident, funny person I know I am, not the person who freaks out over talking to a crush.
  2. I am going to steal the mosturization suggestion in the video, and I am going to listen to and respect my body. If I eat pizza and my stomach goes crazy, then I will take that in and know for the future. I will also re-up acupuncture and yoga to better understand my body’s processes and feelings.
• Jules Emerson

  The last two years of my life have been about this. My husband of 20 years walked out and my whole world was turned upside down. Already thin, I lost a lot of weight and struggled with anxiety and sadness. I’m so grateful now for the whole experience as it also became a time of letting go of so much that wasn’t me. I have been focusing on a relationship with myself since, journaling, exercising, eating well,making new friends, stepping out of my comfort zone regularly to try new things, learning to love and accept me just as I am. Last summer I worked a bikini for the first time in 20 plus years. Scary at first but now I can do it without thought! Ive been trying online dating but there are a lot of guys out there with no integrity so I’ve stopped before I become someone who hates on men. I’ve just made a commitment to myself to take myself out once a month (by myself) and either try something new or pursue somethingI love. I feel I will either meet someone through this or get to know myself even better and fall even more deeply in love with my life.
• Odalys

  I am going to stop putting on the same ugly robe every night and I am going to buy a nice little lacy silky chemise to lounge around the house – covers both making the effort with my hubby and loving my body!!
  • Alissa Rae Hill

    This is a great idea, its inspiring me to do the same.
• Cathy

  1. I would like to start considering my career a priority.
  2. I asked my husband if he’d like to go to a festival tomorrow night that includes foodtrucks and lots of music. (Two things my husband would really enjoy.) He said he would think about it…. So maybe we’ll go out tomorrow?
  3. I would like to start rebuilding my relationship with my body by starting to wear earrings again.
• Ashley Grant

  1. I’m going to stop simply throwing on a pair of jeans and a t-shirt. I’m going to wear dresses because they make me feel sexy regardless of how I look to others. When I feel sexy my husband feels those good vibes and treats me better. I’m also going to get in my feminine flow like your example from the video- take a moment to turn off work Ashley, take a shower, light a candle and calm the hell down because calm and feminine Ashley is much more loving and enjoyable to be around.

  2. I’m going to give her manicures and pedicures. She writes all day in her ghost writing business and her hands deserve a rest. She also deserves pedicures because she has foot problems and they would make her feel way more luxurious.
• Hillary

  I have been thinking about how I can do more in my relationship and I think you’re absolutely right. I need to start planning more and taking initiative in what we do. I’ve been too passive, and he needs more than I’ve been giving him. And for myself, I want to start putting more effort into my hair and body. I love the idea of moisturizing, because it’s something that – for some reason – I pictured doing thinner, but I don’t do now. Isn’t that silly? And I really have no idea how to do my own hair. I think it’s time I learn to do something that’s not a ponytail.