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• Karen

  Loving your message!! For my relationship, I’m going to focus on cleaning up my side of the street and allowing my husband to have some control & ownership in the home, so that like your client in the story, he can feel as big a part of our home life as I do. For me, I’m going to stop waiting on the weight and get myself an outfit that actually fits and makes me feel good about how I look.
  • Sarah Jenks

    I think that’s a great plan, Karen. This act of allowance will help you to soften and focus on yourself while giving your husband a boost. Shopping for a new outfit sounds fun! Let me know how it all goes.
• Rache

  This video really helped alter my thinking in a great way.
  1. My boyfriend and I have completely opposing schedules, so often when we do actually see one another, I am tired and lazy and more concerned with going to bed or getting ready for my next day that I don’t take the time to see him, and listen to him, and appreciate him the way I used to. I’m going plan ahead for the time I do get to spend with him and find ways to make that time special. Instead of getting to his apartment, tossing on pjs, and hoping he won’t wake me up when he gets home, I’ll find nights to stay up and surprise him. Even just taking time to sit up and listen closely to his day (no matter how much mine has tired me out) will make a difference.
  2) I love the idea of thinking of my relationship with my body as a relationship between two people. I wouldn’t be friends with someone who puts me down all the time and makes me feel worthless. Why on earth am I being that kind of friend to myself? My poor body has no choice but to sit there and take it. No more! I am going to praise my body and treat her the way she wants to be treated. I also love the idea of operating as though I already have the “perfect” body I have been fighting for. If my body were actually as fit as I always fantasize, I wouldn’t stuff it full of an entire bag of barely thawed pizza rolls. If my body were perfect right now? I’d take it for a walk, rock whatever outfit I want, and nourish it to sustain it. Why wait until I have that “perfection” to do that?! My body IS perfect. I’m going to treat her that way by drinking more water and only giving her food she really truly actually likes and then let her ENJOY it. This looks like the beginning of a beautiful friendship 😉
  • Sarah Jenks

    Hi Rache- your comment warmed my heart- I love hearing about you creating a beautiful friendship with your body and being kind to her. Let me know how these surprises go for you and your boyfriend. Best wishes!
• Mihi

  Awesome video once again. Today I’m going to
  1) Initiate a date with my ptnr and also when I come home from wk everyday then take time to relax

  2) I’m off to get my legs waxed to start a relationship with my body. I used to do it all the time but wanted to save money and decided to do it at home. Unfortunately it just left me feeling yuk instead of pampered. So away u go:)
  3) I’m also going to stop waiting for that perfect occasion to wear my jewellery.
• Hayley

  Thanks so much for another inspirational video.

  Relationship – I’m going to book a date night with my husband. We go out with friends fairly regularly but don’t often go out just the two of us.

  Loving my body – I always put off buying new clothes until I’ve lost weight so I’m going to treat myself to something new to wear – the thought has just occurred to me to treat myself to something new to wear for my date night!

  I’m loving the challenges so far and can’t wait to see what next week’s are.
• Pamela

  Hi all! Just finished the second video. 1) The way that I am going to show up in my relationship with my husband is to ASK him what he needs to feel more connected with me. 2) To help reconnect with my body, I will start drinking the water I know she needs on a daily basis and cut down on the caffeine which I know is not the best way to hydrate.
  • Sarah Jenks

    Hi Pamela! Thank you for sharing. Keep me posted on how things go and how you feel afterwards with your husband!
• Beth

  Although my husband and I have both recently retired and we are enjoying life and our new time together, I think I can show up more in the relationship by putting my happiness first. That sounds so selfish to me, but the more comfortable I am with myself, the more I can give in the relationship. The way I am going to start building a relationship with my body is I am going to pamper myself more. It makes me feel good and I deserve it! My husband does a great foot massage and I haven’t had one in a long time! Today’s the day!
  • Sarah Jenks

    I love that you’re enjoying your retirement together Beth and I’m so glad you’re committing more to taking care of yourself.
• Sue Clarkson

  My current relationship with my body is fairly difficult.
  I am carrying myself around and getting through the days.
  I feel lumpy and bumpy and have a skin condition which looks and feels terrible.
  I can go all day not eating because it doesn’t occur to me I’m hungry.
  Or I eat when I’m home alone because of old habits from my 25 year marriage which ended with the last 5 years with my x husband and father of my 4 sons having an affair with my then friend.
  I am getting married next April to a wonderful man and my body needs to change.
  • Sarah Jenks

    Hi Sue. I’m so glad you’ve found love in a man that appreciates and loves you. What are some small things you can start putting into action now to help you get more comfortable in your skin. Is it a walk a few nights a week after dinner? Have you seen a dermatologist to help support you with your skin? What is your favorite way to move your body?
• Rebecca

  My journey began at a young age as well, I’m at the stage now where I’m just miserable in my body. For fun I’m going bike riding.
  • Sarah Jenks

    Hi Rebecca, I’m so glad you’re committing to a bike ride. Also start to think about how you can make more time for it in your daily schedule!
• Pamela

  I’m a little behind on my #livemorechallenges, but here goes. I have had a not so great relationship with my body since freshman year of college. I have always been “bigger” than the average female population and have often felt like an ogre among everyone else. When I started college and was on my own for the first time (with no parents to keep tabs on me) I went crazy with junk food and alcohol. I gained a lot of weight during college because of this. The year before I got married, I lost a bunch of weight using a program that made my meals for me, so it’s no wonder that I gained most of it back once we were married.After that, my weight has gone up and down, up and down and I have tried so many of the weight loss “programs” out there, but not been successful. I am now a full time SAHM to 3 busy boys. I thought that would afford me some time to focus on me and get the exercise in, but no luck. I am definately a “waiter”. Like, I am waiting until tomorrow to go to the gym or take that walk because of XYZ or waiting to buy the healthy groceries because this week is just too busy to focus on meal planning.
  I am just tired. Tired of not being able to keep up with my kids, tired of not liking who I see in the mirror, tired of waiting to live the happy, fulfilling life I know I deserve.

  The fun thing I am planning to do today is head to the pool with my kids and get some playtime in. Then come home and grill up a healthy dinner. 🙂
  • Sarah Jenks

    This sounds like a great enjoyable afternoon for all of you Pamela. For one week, I’d love for you to commit to meal planning. It may be a lot of work up front, but I want you to see how it goes. If you hate it, you can stop, but you might find out that once you get going it’s going to bring a lot more ease into your evening routines. Let me know how it goes!
• Kathleen

  Thanks for the great first video!
  Today I actually DID eat w/o distractions – I sat on my back deck in a lawn chair and had some greens, beans and an egg that I had just prepared. I took the time to be outside on a beautiful day, not worry about what the others in my house were doing, and just enjoy being outside. I have tried this practice on and off at work over the past two years but am not regular about it – it is hard! Today’s experience helped me recommit to that practice.

  For fun today – I went to a yoga class this morning (today is my day off) and I am having some girlfriends over this evening. I also plan to either go swimming or do a guided Yoga Nidra meditation.

  I feel like the girlfriends is the “fun” part; some of the rest seems more like self-care and it seems there is a distinction in my mind, though I’m not always clear what that looks like.
• Shelley Carppe

  I think I can do this all in one. After my third child, I stopped wearing pretty underwear in favour of comfort. My shape had changed and I didn’t really like it. I kept thinking one day I will treat myself……my youngest is now 14! So today I stop waiting. Today I go shopping for underwear that makes me feel sexy. Hubby will love it, and I will be honoring my body!
• Falon

  This video really hit home today. I went to the gym and found myself wanting to criticize my body and beat myself up for letting myself get to this point. But instead I chose to appreciate what I can do and how strong I am getting. Today I had an amazing acupuncture session to really relax and focus on me. I’m a newlywed so am lucky that we’re still in the money on phase of our relationship. But I’m going to commit to making more time for my husband and plan dates so we don’t get stuck in a rut.
• Liz

  1 – I am committed to learning how I can communicate to my husband how much I respect him and believe in his capability.
  2 – I am going to tell my body what I love about her every day, wear makeup and do my hair more often (no more SAHM frumpiness!), and schedule that hike up a 14-er mountain this summer.
• Jenniffer

  To stop waiting I will take my kids to the beach, for my relationship I will show more affection EVERY day, and for my body I will drink more water and pamper myself more.
• Karen Brown

  relationship has to be date nights- spend most evenings looking after our grandson as daughter works evenings so I will find time to initiate time out for us!For me – moisturise, make up( got some bright red lipstick need something to go with it 🙂 ) and drinking more water as well as finding some kind of exercise I enjoy – which might just be walking more
• Ami

  I already put cream on my very dry skin every day but I’m talking lovingly to her and adding essential oils to the cream. It’s like a mini massage with self-love. As for my side of the street, I’m trying to purge all of the excess goods we have in our house and keep it tidier. It drives my husband crazy. I’ve been doing it in great off and on spurts for a while but it’s time to do another serious review. He’ll be thrilled and I’ll try to keep it that way.
• ALICE

  I have already painted my nails for the first time in 2 years (since my daughter was born) and have spent some time making my hair modern and pretty. I am watching this video in the conservatory with a candle listening to the rain instead of watching mindless tv. I am done with waiting the wait and need to change my approach to my job (or change my job) rather than waiting for a second baby to happen, i will consciously be more cheery at home, and will go to bed when i am tired, eat when i am hungry, and make sure that i am eating food that i genuiniely like and nourishes me. Learning to love my body will be hard. But i will start by buying some clothes that i love, wearing jewellery and allowing myself to be noticed. I will make myself say thank you for compliments and will give them to others.
• Melissa

  I am single and I have a full life. I do activities and embrace the people in my life. Last summer I found my piece of mind and ended toxic relationships. So I am going to do yoga today.I enjoy it and it makes me feel good and relaxed
• Sam

  I adore my god and and he is the king of doing little things to treat me so I have just been online and booked a weekend away for us both. I want to show him that I care about him (he loves the place I have booked!).
  To respect and love my body I am going to go and buys her some new, pretty and comfortable underwear. I have a bad habit of refusing to buy pretty things because “why dress this up” and assuming it will all look awful. Instead I am going to buy something beautiful and make more effort to pain my nails and do my makeup so that I feel like I can start to shine.

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• CB

  For my relationship, I will be more supportive of my partner, he’s having a rough go at the moment.
  For myself, I will make more of an effort to get more sleep and drink more water. A pedicure wouldn’t be a bad idea either, it’s been ages!!!
• Jenette Arnold

  I have been single now for 8 years. Yes I really miss the interaction, intimacy, cwtches and passion and it would be great to feel that again. I decided a few years ago when my illness got really bad that a relationship for me again was very doubtful. I wouldn’t want to put them through seeing me at my worst, would it be something they would understand? There is also the issue that I am a single mum and some see that as baggage they don’t want or need. So for me the relationship one is difficult.
  As for loving my body, I’m going to spend more time pampering it and keep in connection through my meditation xx
• Adele Webster

  1. Stop waiting on the weight by listing things my weight is stopping me from achieving and knocking them off 1by1
  2.tidy up my side of the street by taking more care of my husband, stop taking things out on him, try to be less bossy and nagging
  3.build a relationship with my body by paying more attention to her…tune in and ask what she needs, drink more water, take more care of my hair, skin, nails and teeth and start yoga.
• Sarah

  First and foremost, Sarah, I so appreciate your approach…
  My experience of waiting on the weight is that I have a lovely,strong figure and am healthy and yet there are those times I stop myself from dressing in a way that shows the real me. I play it down. I see a small poochy belly and think I’m heavier than I should be. Old tapes from when I was heavy and hated my body.Today i commit to dressing in my sassy summer white dress.

  The second action step is a good one, my husband and I do many things together, cook, garden and build things like our deck. I want to surprise him somehow with something unexpected. More on this later; I have some ideas but they haven’t jelled yet.

  The one step I will commit to in rebuilding my relationship with my body is to honor it when it is tired, to rest instead of racing through my day. I do yoga, workout and go, go and go some more. Even my rest time is filled with online learning and reading. I’ve been ill for a week and need to rest. Today I will turn off technology and tune out and take a real nap, just for me!
• Leslie

  1. In my romantic relationship, I’m going to show him I care about his feelings more by being a better housekeeper & I’d like to help out more by making more money to help with all the bills since he works so hard for our family.
  2. Actions I’m going to take to start building a relationship with my body is drink more water because I basically live in diet coke right now. I’m going to start my new job & put myself out there instead of sitting at home feeling sad & lonely. I’m going to do my make up & nails more often so I can feel pretty. & I want to stop laying in bed at night crying over how I feel nothing is going right & that I don’t want my husband to leave me & how if I was prettier maybe he’d want me more because then I don’t sleep & my heart feels broken all the time. I am going to try & speak more lovingly to myself. I deserve love too.
• Jessica

  1. How I am going to show up more?? Compliment my husband more…let him talk and LISTEN instead of advising him on issues he is dealing with at work. Scratch his back more…get sitters more often:)
  2. I am going to buy me some summer clothes that make me feel good–shorts that make me feel good. Buy a couple new bras that fit, and are comfy. Start doing yoga and pilates. Moisturize my very dry legs and feet every day–maybe buy a new oil or something delicious:)
• Dianne Schene

  I’m going to be less critical of my spouse and more supportive
  I’m going to plan activities that I want to do with him instead of waiting for him to suggest
  I’m going to treat my body with respect but not filling it with junk food. Take better care of my skin.
  I am going to get up and get ready for work every day even though I work from home. Right now i haven’t showered and just put on whatever clothes were handy
• Vicki

  This morning I left a love note for my husband. I am going to bring more love and appreciation into our relationship which has felt more like “friends with benefits” lately.
  When I looked into the mirror this morning at the gym, I made a conscious effort to tell my body that I loved her instead of looking for flaws. Felt awesome!
• Carly

  I am going to spend more energy focusing on what *I* can do each morning and each evening to make (our) life and home more open, cheery, clean.

  To build a relationship with my body—I am going to give myself 15 minutes of yoga each morning to give my body a chance to celebrate its strength, improve it’s flexibility and give my body more movement in the day. It sounds like “work” sometimes, but I need to remind myself it will make my body feel great.
• Deanna

  For both I am going to be more present. I feel like I am detached from both right now. My relationship is pretty young still an,d we are moving at a snails pace. I do seem to focus on want I don’t like/want about him. I will focus on the good and what I do like about him. I also need to learn how to communicate better. I will show up with openness and presence. I will do the same for my body. I had started working with affirmations a few years ago and they really do work, but I haven’t been saying them and, like I said, I feel detached from her. I will stop and look at her and love on her. One trick that helps is to be mindful in the shower and compliment every part of me and tell her I love her. I will be mindful in other activities as well. Present in my body and thankful to her!
• Jennifer

  1.I’m going to be more affectionate.
  2. I will be consistent in doing those healthy things I know I should, such as taking vitamin and probiotic, drinking more water, skin care-especially sunscreen. I exercise regularly. I will be 50 in September and I want to be a young 50. I want to improve myself body and mind. I want to maintain and preserve my body and it’s function.