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Wow- the video was powerful…Honestly, my current relationship with my body is rocky.. Good days and bad days. On March 28, 2016, I had some masses removed from my breasts… They were benign but it made me hate and distrust my body. January 1st, I made a conscious change to eat better and move for 30 min a day… Three months later I was under the knife… So I am trying to rebuild the love and trust I know I deserve to have with my body…
Fun is fairly easy for me… I try to incorporate crazy and fun in all aspects of my life… Today I am going to read my Danielle Steele book on the patio & just breathe… I travel about 75 percent of my time… So enjoying the solitude is very fun!!!
I totally relate to so many things that you spoke about in this video. From the dieting my entire life (and failing) to thinking that everything will change once I lose weight (and don’t gain it back this time). Even the woman who was waiting for the relationship until she lost weight could definitely be me. Admittedly because of all my failures I am hesitant and skeptical, but I’m giving this a try. Today the fun thing I will is a Zumba class, I’ll focus on my food and try to get out of my own way and find my true happy self.
Hi Sarah,
I have been yo-yo dieting my whole life. My Mom put me on my first diet when I was 7 or 8 (2nd grade) and I have continued that to the present, at 53. The last time I lost a lot of weight, I did hours and hours of exercise. I do like to work out but that was just over the top and I burned out. I don’t think that I have ever really just let myself relax into having a fun life. I’ve always been involved in social or church groups that I somehow ended up leading. If I could go back and do it all again, I wouldn’t allow my daughters’ childhoods and my time and spirituality to get hijacked by so many different activities. Now I work but don’t volunteer for anything. When I retire, I may, but now there is nothing wrong with living my life for me.
So what will make me happy today? Turning on music when I cook dinner and sitting on the porch to eat.
I remember being about 9 years old and being over develop. Being bigger than other girls in my class or feeling like i was.Getting attention that should not have got at 9. I have done every diet out there. i even had surgery to loose weight but at the end of the story still being over weight. I have dealt with a lot of issues through my life and i am just tired of not liking my self or loving my self. So i am hoping this will help me. Learn to love my self the way i am now so i can better my self. Thank you Gilda Having fun putting on some music and dancing the way i used to when i was young.
I wouldn’t say I hate my body anymore. However, I am self conscious about it. But not to the point I let it stop me from doing things I want to do. Life’s too short. For fun, nature, reading, walking, listening to music, zumba, swimming. Not all today of course.
My body is supposed to do everything I want with no complaints.
I am going to lie in the grass in my backyard with my 3 little chickens running around.
So excited to hear what you had to say, I have struggled with my body satisfaction for years, and while I can get to an ideal weight on a diet, I often rebound back when the emotional stress kicks in. I have a common habit of rewarding my self for victory or struggles, with food. Just before I watched the video, I actually ate without distraction, and discovered that several items on my lunch plate just weren’t that satisfying, and so I realized I was finished!! Who knew I didn’t love mac and cheese?
As for fun, I am going to make a point of getting home early so that we can go to the pool before swim practice and play! And today I am going to get in the water and play too!!
Yes, I think that I have been in a rut with my life for the last (probably 10) years because of circumstances that were beyond my control….that being said, after viewing this video, I have a new understanding that I need to take back control and start doing things for me. Thank you for your insights…..
The number one struggle with my body is i am diabetic, a naughty diabetic at that i am overweight have a job where i am on my feet all day, so the last thing i want to do is exercise, energy levels are low after work and i have a serious lack of self preservation.
My fun thing to do tonight is going out andbuying a red lipstick and figure out what clothes to wear with it.
This is great. Thank you for sharing your insights… it makes so much sense. I have struggled with my weight since my early 20’s. It has gone way up and way down at various points in my life, and I have tried many diets and cleanses. The worst was after the birth of my twins at which point my weight was quite low, and I was hit with excessive weight gain in a period of a week along with being tired beyond belief, brain fog and joint pain. I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s, and a lot of my extreme weight fluctuation started to make some sense. I have let go of dieting, and have been trying to make it more of a lifestyle… but based on what you are talking about, I haven’t really accepted where I am at, or been able to live the way I want because I have felt like my body is “not ready yet.” Ugh.
I have definitely been focusing more on fun lately. Today, we are walking down to the beach with my girls and husband and do some playing and relaxing.
Thank you for this challenge and your great insight! My biggest struggle is being comfortable in my own skin. I’ve been all over the map with my weight and it seems like it’s hard to meet myself where I’m at and love everything about it. Today, I am getting back to doing the things I love. I am meeting up with a group of strangers to bike downtown, dressed as super heroes!
Hi Sarah, my life story short, I’ve felt fat since elementary school, all my life of fad, yoyo dieting has not given me permanent result (not good ones anyway :-/) I am a Mom of 3 and all my kids are 6 years apart, so I have used them as an excuse for this body for many years:-( and I am not proud of that, I have taught them to eat unhealthy which resulted in them being overweight as well. At this time in my life I have made some good changes, about 3 months ago we decided to improve our eating habits, we are slowly transitioning into a healthier life style (old habits die hard :-/) as a family. We are doing “ok” I guess, but the struggle really is real:-) For fun I do Zumba twice a week, I love it, it makes me feel fit & sexy, and it’s great for relieving stress 🙂
Hi Sara,
Thanks so much for the first video. It all makes complete sense and I am excited to see where this journey takes me. As for my relationship with my body – I want to say it is a good one but if I am honest with myself I want to say it because it is what I want to believe…not that it actually is. I think that if I actually had a good relationship with my body I would take better care of it. Exercise more, eat better, etc. This has all come at a good time for me as I have just started learning about my spiritual journey as well and connecting with the universe. Luckily – I am pretty fortunate in the fun department but I am up for the challenge of adding some more of it into my life! Tonight while my daughter is at dance I think I will walk to the local thrift store and search for treasures!
I have a horrible relationship with my body. Every time I look at myself in a mirror I’m disgusted and hate everything I see. I struggle to love my body.
I love being in nature so for fun today I am going to go on a little hike and eat my lunch sitting on the bench enjoying the beauty around me!
Struggle: It started with shyness and no self confidence – that made me learn to disappear in my teens/20s… I was more comfortable being invisible than risking being seen in a negative light so I wallflowered all the opportunities to do fun and active things with my very active friends. I think it has since evolved into neglect – I have gotten more confident and a little shameless and accepting of what I am and what I’m not in my 30s, but now after a few decades of hibernation, activity is hard and painful, and I am so lethargic. A day of work (and I write software so my work is very sedentary) is all I can muster.
For fun: I am going home on my lunch break, and I am going to play my tunes and dive for rings in my pool. (I hate laps, but I love diving for the kids’ toys with them, and they are all busy today, so… 🙂
It’s so easy for me to live as if my purpose is to serve, to create fun, and to be a side kick for others. I found this video to be a nice reminder to allow the world to revolve around me. It gave me permission to do my own thing, listen to my wants and desires, and invite people to be participants in MY life. This is certainly a challenge as one of my deepest fears is that no one wants to share my life with me. I think that is the fear that keeps me trapped and is at the root of so much of my insecurity with my body.
So, today I jump out for more fun to be an active participant in my own life. Oh how I love fun! I’m going to have some friends over for some trashy tv and pull out some facial masks just because.
I have struggled with my weight since about age 10 and growing up with siblings that never had weight problems and were always outgoing made me believe that if I could just lose weight I could achieve the same happiness, friendships and lives they were building for themselves. I have been in this mindset for a very long time believing that my body is what has held me back in my life. Even though I have come to accept my body I still try to change it and still struggle to make myself the priority in my life that seems ruled by my job (that I don’t enjoy and its not what I want to be doing). I just seem to not know where to start and when I try things they stick for maybe 2 weeks before work, stress and exhaustion pull me back to my old habits of working, coming home eating and doing absolutely nothing but watch tv at night.
For fun today I am going to continue with my goal of going for a walk. (Listening to music and being outdoors is very relaxing for me). I also am going to paint. Something I have been meaning to do for a long time.
Looking forward to this journey. I made myself a promise about 2 years ago that it was time I live my life. I have made many steps towards that and had a few set backs, but I think this might just be the last piece to the puzzle to bring everything together.
My number one struggle with my body is that I am 6’0 and have an athletic build. This also means I am not small by any stretch. I have never been below a size 10 even when I feel great about how I look. I struggle with not being able to shop at regular boutiques or sharing clothes with my other, smaller, friends even though they are not nearly as fit as I am. Today for fun I am going to walk my dogs on the beautiful country road I love and hear and smell all the nature around me.
The current relationship I have with my body is improving. I started the Live More Weigh Less Program In August of 2015.. I remember the day I found LMWL.. I had the house to myself and I was in the bathtub and I watched all your videos and cried and cried. I could relate to your story and I had known for awhile there was more to my health and weight problems than “just eat this way and lower your stress.” See, I have PCOS and have been heavy my whole life and the only time I have ever felt better was when I got rid of sugar and lowered my consumption of foods that turn to sugar in my body. I had been trying and failing for years at this point to maintain the lifestyle that serves me, especially after having an 80 pound weight gain during my pregnancy. I started digging deep and incorporated Brene Brown’s work and e-corses because I’m a recovering perfectionist and I put my foot down with my husband about starting couples therapy. I began the program and I even allowed myself to stop trying to loose weight. I followed along with the program and honestly I struggled. I stepped away from it for a while too because of the complications of PCOS… it was too depressing that I couldn’t just be normal and do what Sarah said and just have the cookie if I wanted it… I let myself do that and I felt awful and gained weight. I was confused and it felt like a let down all over again. Then one day I decided to skip ahead (hard to do if you are a perfectionist… I thought I’d be messing with the order that Sarah created and skipping ahead would cause me failure to achieve success) to the Relationship part of LMWL because this was an area of my life that was a disaster. Up until this point I was still in the frame of mind that if I could just get my weight under control that all my other worries in my life would magically go away or sort themselves out. After listening to a couple modules I was intrigued with the information about masculine and feminine energies and when Sarah mentioned the resources to do further exploring I went on amazon and bought the books she mentioned and also the books that amazon suggested I might like as well. That is when I found No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover. This book has changed my life. It was like someone had been observing my life and as I listened to it on audible my mouth kept dropping open and I think I was only 40 minutes into it when I knew I had finally found what I had been searching for for years. Because of my very expensive couples therapy I knew now how to calmly and gently bring this information to my husband. He is now in recovery. We have separated and even though it was difficult coming to this decision we both know that it is essential… not only for his health but also for mine. See, when you are in an unhealthy relationship and it goes on for years, it affects your health… the best way I can describe it is to imagine the pain of breaking up lasting 5 years. It was exhausting and I’m so happy to be on the other side of things. I’m putting me first. I’m able to maintain my lifestyle happily and with ease .. and guess what ladies… I’m 194 pounds, down from 215! or more importantly I am a size 14 down from a 20, feel amazing, sleep better, have energy, my face is clear and my skin is so soft… with no slow down in these departments in sight because I have aligned my life to do so. I have called in help and I have put things like dancing, live music and spending time with friends first. I have WAY more energy and calm to give to my 5 year old. I am putting experiences with him at the top of my priority list this summer and I’m also going into business with my long time friend helping other women who want to break free from sugar addiction for themselves and their families. My family is stronger and better than ever. I am a true success story and I’m not even done yet… the best is yet to come. Today, for fun I am going to Zumba and probably going to spend some time on Pinterest designing my new office. Thank you for everything you have done to empower women Sarah.. I’m forever grateful. xoxoxox
My current relationship with my body is a love/hate. Wanting to manipulate it into something thinner. I had an eating disorder for 13 years and am finally in a place where I am labor to try to accept my body and what it does for me.
Today I will put on my swimsuit and actually swim with my nephews!
My relationship with my body has always been a top priority. As a 3 year old I knew I wanted to dance. Lessons throughout my childhood confirmed it. So taking care of my body was important to me. Diet was always important to me. As a dancer weight is of upmost importance, next to talent and technique. At auditions, which I detested, you would be compared. Even if I were a “good” weight, dancer-weight was what mattered. Standing next to a different body type in auditions, and eventually on-stage could really do a number on your head. So, I lived this way most of my career up until I retired from dancing. At age 30 I married my longtime [9 years] live-in boyfriend, was still working in show business, (acting/singing) but not dancing. I missed that mind body connection. Gained a little weight, was determined to lose it so joined the gym, hired a personal trainer, started taking yoga and lost weight. Felt Great! Over several years of yoga practice I started changing my brain. Show business was disgusting me so I retired from that as well. Got certified to teach yoga and made that my pleasurable job. Through some rough years with an addictive husband I really sunk pretty low on self-esteem. Thought there was something wrong with “me”. Kept studying and practicing mindfulness through my yoga practice, and teaching. Eventually my husband got sober, then detoxed from pills. It was still a bit rugged. He worked a show in the city for 10 years, 6 days a week. It eventually took a toll physically. His show ended, he struggled for steady work. After joining a touring band we moved from the beach in NJ to Las Vegas. It was the hardest, poorest, most depressing 4 years of our lives. During that time my body started ‘rebelling’. ie: perimenopause, then full menopause – I was only 45. My mother in law suddenly died Dec.2011, we moved to PA to take care of father in law. Husband mostly on-the-road travelling, drinking, smoking, and all that you can only imagine. My life was anxiety ridden. Care giver and worrying wife. No friends. I also got diagnosed with hypothyroidism and put on synthetic medicine. I found a part-time job at a spiritual gift shop. It was only 2 days per week, not much money, but it got me out of the house. I also found a yoga studio nearby and joined. I got back into a serious practice and was asked to teach there. I did for almost one year, but that also turned to disappointment. The business owner, sole teacher, ego, dishonesty, etc. This really set me back! Very discouraged, I even started smoking. After several years as caregiver my father in law died at home in his bed, luckily while my husband was home on break. All the expense of an old, unkept house left to you was daunting. Taxes, etc. weighing heavy. Oct. of last year my husband was let go from his 8 year gig touring with the band. Deep down I was elated. But without income we decided to sell the house. Fortunately it sold quickly and we had to be out by Dec. 18th. My husband thought the warmth and sunshine, blue waters of Florida would be great for me. So we packed up, stowed up in a hotel for 1 week with our cats looking for an apartment. It was costly & after that week we settled in a city I had not researched. Tampa. We (I) worked tirelessly transforming this 1100 ft apt. into our new “home”. At the end of Jan. we flew out to Las Vegas to retrieve all our belongings we left in 2012. So happy to reunite with my bed! I’ve done a juice fast, quit caffeine, found a naturopath, gotten on natural dessicated thyroid medicine and research heavily on ways to heal my body. With cortisol issues it is tricky exercise wise. But we have been walking, biking, kayaking and swimming quite often. I quit smoking 2 months ago (today!) and have a nutritionist who has me eating 3 meals and 2 meal replacement shakes per day. Cannot explain my difficulty here. It’s just that most days I have no appetite. So, this is a huge challenge for me. I can easily go all day without eating, then feel famished at night and finally eat something. I am starting to change this, but it is hard. The shakes are easy to make & drink. It’s the 3 meals that seem Impossible!!! I am investigating this relationship with food. Will keep you posted. As for fun. Anything in or on water is a plus! We just celebrated 29 years together last week on Anna Maria Island. Had the most amazing time with all sorts of critters. Birds, manatees, tarpon, schools of rays, a shark or two, and Dolphins. It was perfect! All the weight I’ve gained since 2009 has had me so disconnected, disgusted, scared, embarrassed…but through it all I put my yogic training to use and find glimpses of more and more Acceptance. I did absolutely nothing to gain 50 lbs through menopause & thyroid disease. The weight budged finally through stopping Synthroid (synthetic med) and taking NDT (natural dessicated thyroid) but it’s slow going. I am glad to have lost over 10 lbs but want to lose so much more. Right now I am concentrating on living more, enjoying activities that are fun and reconnecting with my joy. I have no problem in a bikini at the pool or the beach. I think it’s more age related than anything. I do not really care what others think of my physique anymore. My husband loves and adores me as I am. And I’m working on Total Acceptance myself.
*long winded comment, but no apologies…I have stepped out of my comfort zone to share this, and more in the days to come
Thank You for reading, listening and the opportunity to put myself out-there.
Wishing us all the strength, compassion, understanding and CARE we deserve.
~Many Blessings, Wendy Nichols ?
This was a beautiful video and so relatable. My relationship with food has always been mindless followed by regret. Today I’m going to take a nice bike ride along the river and when I’m finished I’m going to sit outside and eat my dinner while enjoying the view. Being present is going to be what I do for fun and letting myself experience today and the small moments. Thanks for the inspiration.
Thank you for this, Sarah!
I have struggled with my body and emotional eating for as long as I can remember. When I was in middle school, I would spend all day thinking about how once I was out of class, I could make myself a big sandwich and then take a nap. I would be so excited for the chips that I would eat with it. Food has always been my source of comfort and relief. I would eat to soothe myself. Then high school happened, where I just happened to be friends with probably the skinniest 14-year-olds you’ve ever seen. It became clear that it was no longer “acceptable” to eat so much if I wanted to fit in. My bingeing spiraled into the opposite: restriction. Then it was years and years of a dance between some sort of normalcy and all sorts of disordered eating patterns.
Food and thinking about food consumed me and hating my body seemed to be the source of it all.
It wasn’t until the past couple of years, where I drastically altered the way I live my life, by addressing the areas you talk about, that things totally changed for me.
I now eat foods that make me feel good, I no longer restrict, I have a deep connection with those around me, my spirituality, and my purpose here, and my body feels more like me than it ever has.
But, though the food chatter is quieter, and I have a much better relationship with my body, I often still day dream about being lighter and thinner. I’ve had a quiet voice in my head reminding me it’s almost summer, which means being in a bathing suit, and that I should be eating less, for months. And If I’m being truthful, I dislike going shopping because I hate looking at myself in dressing room mirrors. I’m also in a time in my life where a lot is going on and things have been emotionally intense and stressful, I’ve found myself feeling extremely comforted by making a bowl of noodles and watching Netflix, almost every night of the week.
Watching this video reminded me that I still have deeper to go, more to heal, and much more living to do.
Today, for fun, I’m going to paint and dance while I do it!
Hi Sarah, thanks so much for such a great video. Made so much sense for me. I’ve always struggled with losing the last 10-15 lbs, and have had this perception of myself as a heavier person. Even at 118, my perception of myself is looking 30 lbs more than I do, which causes me stress. I also work in a field where having a yoga body seems requisite to success teaching. Even though at some level I know that this isn’t true, emotionally, it stops me from being the teacher I know I can be. I have a hot husband who gets alot of attention and causes me even more stress that I’m not enough e.g. thin, tall or pretty enough to be with him (it’s been 8 years). The old identity of feeling I was compared and found wanting has caused me to keep comparing myself to others and feeling inadequate, often stopping me from being happy now, having fun and expressing the fullness of my Spirit! Your video encouraging us to have fun now and to really be present to the food hit home, esp. the fun part as I feel fairly deprived in this area! As for food, my choices are often healthy but devoid of true enjoyment as I am often eating on the run or in tandem with the smart phone or computer, tv on. I have some dance classes that my brother gave me to have fun, that I have delayed and delayed on. I can minimally look at some tango videos to be inspired to get dancing again, pick up the recent schedule at the studio and select a day and enjoy my lunch sitting down without distractions. Thank you so much for sharing!
I have struggled all my life with my weight. I’m now 40 and still hate the way I look, ashamed, putting off having fun with my kids until I look better. Your film hit the nail on the head for me. I also have an underactive thyroid and take Meds for depression which don’t help. I need to change or I will have wasted my entire life waiting for tomorrow and the weight to drop off! I have just got home from work, the kids are at grandmas for tea and my hubby is not due home for a while so I think my fun for today will be either to watch one of my favourite films or read some of my book…usually I spend my afternoons doing jobs so it will be fun to take time out for me. Looking forward to the next film x thank you for making me think x Sam x
My fun for today is yoga and reading!
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I know I put weight on to protect myself from a lot of pain that I was going through, unhappy marriage, poor relationship with myself, feeling insecure, unsafe, defeated and scared. I look forward to learning a new way to think. Today I will sit outside with my son and talk about our day as I turn off the mental to do list and connect.
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I can relate to nearly everything you said! I am turning 49 this July and lately have realized that my whole life I have been waiting to live. I have had this idea that first things must be perfect, then life would start. It’s been my weight or my job or when I found the perfect place to live etc. I truly believe what you said about beginning to live now and the rest falls into place! So today for fun I’m listening to great music and dancing while I get ready for work.I have heard the bit about mindful eating several times, but haven’t taken the time to actually do it. Today I will begin. Thank you for the inspiration!
I have struggled with my weight since school and no matter how slim I have been in the past I have never truly been happy. I console myself with food and then spend hours beating myself up over being week and greedy. I hate my body and withdraw from the world because I’m embarrassed and ashamed. Your video has made me determined to live my life and not wait for it to start. For fun I will call up some friends and go to a wine bar after work, let my hair down and have some laughs.